As a relationship therapist, I do a lot of learning, studying, and reading about relationships and how to be a better relationship therapist. One of my all-time favourite relationship researchers, teachers, and relationship therapists is Stan Tatkin. In this TED talk, he explains some of the neurobiological reasons of why relationships are so hard and what the main project of our intimate relationships is. I encourage everybody who is in a relationship to watch this.
“Relationships are hard. But what if it's not you or them or sex, money or even who picks up the socks. What if there is a far more primitive reason?
In this talk, relationship expert Stan Tatkin explores why we fight from the perspective of neuroscience – and how to give your relationship a fighting chance.
Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, is a clinician, researcher, teacher, and developer of A Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy® (PACT). He has a clinical practice in Calabasas, CA, where he has specialized for the last 15 years in working with couples and individuals who wish to be in relationships. He and his wife, Tracey Boldemann-Tatkin, developed the PACT Institute for the purpose of training other psychotherapists to use this method in their clinical practice.”